Whether online or in person having mom friends is a very crucial extra bonus for all moms.
They don’t need to be your best friends, but finding a mom’s group can be so supportive for a first time mom or even a seasoned mommy of three. It’s a different type of support system, then family or friends you’ve had since high school. A great group of mom friends makes being a mom a tad easier and keeps you a tad more sane.
I found a local mother’s group through Meetup.com and it has been so beneficial for both Madeline and me. I remember being so nervous going, but when I finally started being active and being myself (we all know we try to be the shiny perfect version of ourselves when meeting new people) I was so happy and wouldn’t stop talking about it when I got home. Alex definitely knew everyone’s kids names before he even met them.
Online mom forums or Facebook groups allow for the same support system. My favorites are on The Babycenter and Facebook, they always makes me smile and sometimes laugh at the crazy mom drama posts. Mom’s groups online allow you to have a broader range of friends, who even though they live across the country from you, are going through the same things. They also can be in different time zones, which allow for people to talk to during a 3 AM feeding.
Having mom friends allows you to relax a little. Let’s you realize that maybe it’s okay if your baby isn’t sleeping through the night yet, still takes bottles, or isn’t potty trained. Having mom friends allowed me to ask questions that I don’t necessarily need to ask my doctor, or ask while I’m waiting for the doctors to call me back. Or even ask the question “should I call the doctor?”.
They are helping you raise your kids, whether online or in person they are helping YOU. They might not always agree with you or they might parent completely differently, but chances are you can help one another. Whether it is what convertible car seat to buy or what helped their child’s diaper rash. Mom friends allow you to relax and talk about your kids with people who won’t get annoyed, because all they want to do is sit there and talk about their kids too. While other friends and family would get bored and might not be able to add to a conversation about diaper brands, mom friends can.
They are there to vent too. They are there to help. They are there for you to help.
They are the people that let your runny nose kid come over because their kid has a worse runny nose. They understand that mommy needs a night out and help plan one. They are there to share recipes or what they are cooking for dinner, that is less then six steps because that’s all your child gives you time for. They are the friends who want to go on lunch dates because they know then they won’t be the only one with a screaming child in the restaurant. They watch your kids at short notice. You can swap children’s and maternity clothes while swapping diaper blowout stories.
You watch your children grow up together and share milsetones. It has been a year now that I joined my local mother’s group and started being active online. Reminiscing on the year with Madeline, I can think of milestones that are surrounded by these women and their kids, and how they are now an important part of our lives. And now that Madeline actually plays with kids, its even more fun to see her make little friends.
So if you are a mom, I recommend you get out there and join a group in your area or look online for groups your interested in. It’s hard to put yourself out there and join a new group of pre-existing friends, but it will be worth it!
And a big thank you to all of my mom friends, you’ve been more amazing then I could ever tell you!